I am talking about the concept of turning 40. Just this past weekend my friend who is turning 40 next year told me about his extravagant plan to celebrate his birthday by conquering the peak of Mount Kinabalu. In case you didn't know, that mountain is the highest in South East Asia.
I keep thinking what's so great about turning 40? Many have told me that it is really something compared to turning 30. So I decided to examine why people above 40 think that blowing 10 extra candles is so great and how The concept of turning 40 can be applied in my life.
1) they just don't give a f&$@ what other people think of them and their decisions. Subject (this kinda makes me feel like I conducted a proper experiment on them) almost always do what's best for themselves without worrying much of what people think - okay I think I can go full blown(alomst) on not caring about what other people think. My limit is my mom and sibblings and also things that could majorly jeopardise my career. Emphasis on the word majorly coz I definitely don't like to be someone I'm not but sometimes I have no choice.
2) subject is self sufficient financially and emotionally . After working for more than 15 years most people are financially ok so they don't need help from others and therefore they can apply point number 1. They've also learned that they dont necessarily need others to comfort them coz people suck anyway and that they are the best at comforting themselves - I think I can work on being financially more stable faster so I can 'turn 40' but the emotional part might be tricky. I am a fragile soul and it may take some time (or maybe even 11 years) for this to happen
3) they feel more attractive and comfortable in their skin. I think there is strong correlation between this and point number 1. 40 year olds vary from hot milfs and dilfs to my-god-you-look-like-you're-past-the-expiry-date. But do they give two f's and feel insecure? No way! Whatever mirror 40 year olds are looking at please give me one. Haha - okay this should be doable even in your teens. Key is to love yourself including your body. Love every scar you have coz each tells a different story. Let me side track a bit, I was asked by my mom today about a scar on my elbow and I kid you not i remember exactly how I got it. Over twenty years ago, my nanny's son put up a tent behind their house and i tripped over one of the ropes from the tent. But I certainly had a lot fun playing in the tent. See! Every scar has a story. If it's a good happy story cherish it, if not learn from it or if it's traumatizing block it out of your mind.
4) enjoy life. People above 40 seem to enjoy life a whole lot more coz they worry less compared to youngins. Well it's probably because of point 1 and 2. - okay some things in my life is really not worth worrying so I shall apply this concept immediately
5) accept that people are made differently. You know the saying sugar and spice and everything nice. Well for some people god forgot to add sugar, sometimes spice and sometimes everything. People above 40 tend to cut them some slack and don't let these ppl annoy them. When they don't like someone they just limit or simply don't allow the person into their lives
6) be patient. People over 40 have the patience as if they have another 100 years to live - Us gen-y's just want things now now now. I'm not saying that it is completely wrong to want things fast but sometimes things take time whether it be your career, relationship etc. So just roll with it and you can easily apply point 4. Of course I still need to work on this but there's progress for sure.
A lot of these points overlap and I may have over simplified the life of people over 40. Of course some are unfortunate and dont feel the same way .
So my wish is to speed up my ageing process (not physically but mentally) so if you have any tips for me lemme know.
